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Couples Therapy in Columbia, MD

You’ve built a life together—
but feel worlds apart.

Therapy can help you reconnect and feel close again.

Offering both virtual and in-person sessions.

Does it feel like you’ve lost each other—even though you’re still together?

Does it feel like you’ve lost each other—even though you’re still together?

You’ve built a life side by side—careers, kids, routines—but something feels off. The spark is gone. Maybe the only things you talk about anymore are the practical details—not each other.

Maybe one of you is working nonstop while the other carries the emotional load. You’re both doing your best, and still—neither of you feels truly seen.

Maybe there’s been a rupture… or maybe the disconnection has been growing for years, quietly.

You’re not yelling all the time. But you’re not reaching for each other either.

You might feel like you’re walking on eggshells—or like you’ve become invisible.

And beneath it all, there’s grief. You remember what it used to feel like—or what you hoped it could be.

You want that spark again. Not just for the relationship, but for yourself.

Feeling more like roommates than partners?

You still care about each other—but something’s off. Maybe it’s the silence, the stress, or how every little thing turns into a fight. Or maybe it’s the distance: lying next to each other at night, feeling alone.

Couples therapy can help you reconnect—with empathy, not blame. We’ll slow down, understand what’s really happening beneath the surface, and find your way back to each other.

Areas of Expertise Within Couples Therapy

Every relationship carries its own kind of weight. I specialize in helping couples who are…

  • You’re overwhelmed by the stress of parenting and craving a moment to just be together again—not just co-manage the chaos.

  • The connection has quietly faded. What’s left is polite distance and functional routines—but not the warmth you once shared.

  • One of you is highly driven or entrepreneurial. The other feels unseen, unsupported, or like everything falls on them.

  • The affair is over, but the pain, doubt, and distance linger. You want to find your way back to something real—but don’t know how.

  • You keep getting stuck in the same arguments—or the same silence. It’s painful, and neither of you wants to stay stuck.

  • One of you feels like sex is the only way your partner connects. The other feels pressure or pulls away. You're both left feeling alone, and unsure how to fix it.


No matter what’s brought you here, we’ll work at a pace that honors your experience, your history, and your hopes. I’ll help you both tune in—beneath the blame, the silence, or the overwhelm—and finally feel what it’s like to be understood again.

What life could look like as a result of therapy

Imagine sitting across from each other—not to argue or trade complaints, but to really see each other again.
You feel like partners again—not just co-parents or housemates.
You talk about more than just who’s picking up the kids or paying the bills. You feel warmth, tenderness, even playfulness again.

You understand what’s happening underneath the tension.
Instead of blaming each other, you both start noticing the fear, sadness, and longing that’s been hiding under the surface. And that changes everything.

You don’t feel so alone in the relationship anymore.
There’s a softness between you—space for emotion, space for repair, space to feel safe again.
Even in the hard moments, you don’t feel like you’re fighting against each other—you’re fighting for something worth keeping.

Many of the couples I work with are parents juggling so much—the chaos of young kids, the stress of demanding careers, the pressure to do it all right.
It’s no wonder your relationship has taken a backseat. But that doesn’t mean it’s beyond repair.

How we’ll get there

I use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to help couples move from disconnection to secure emotional bonds.
That means we’ll map out the cycle you get stuck in—and then shift the emotional patterns that keep you distant or reactive.

As a therapist offering relationship counseling in Columbia, MD, I help you explore what happens in those stuck places—the anger, the silence, the shutdown—with compassion and clarity.
Instead of assigning blame, we’ll get curious about what those reactions are trying to protect.

Through this process, you’ll:
• Learn how to turn toward each other, not away
• Repair ruptures with honesty and care
• Express your needs without fear or defensiveness
• Feel more secure, supported, and emotionally connected

This is deep work—but it’s how real change happens.
You don’t need to settle for just surviving together.
With the right support, you can feel close again.

What You’ll Take Away from Couples Therapy

Couples therapy isn’t just about learning how to “communicate better.”
It’s about building a relationship where both of you feel seen, valued, and safe again.

Together, we’ll work on helping you:

  • Recognize the emotional cycles that keep you stuck in disconnection

  • Understand and express your needs without criticism or defensiveness

  • Rebuild emotional safety so that both of you feel less alone in the hard moments

  • Repair ruptures in a way that brings clarity—not blame
    So you can stop defending your pain and start feeling truly understood

  • Navigate parenting stress and differences without feeling dismissed
    So your partner sees that you’re not just reacting—you’re doing your best and your perspective makes sense

  • Create new ways of connecting that feel real—not forced or surface-level

  • Turn toward each other again with softness, not just managing the day-to-day

This isn’t about “fixing” you or your partner.
It’s about changing the pattern between you—so the relationship starts to feel like a safe place again.

It’s possible to feel close again—
even if it’s been years since you felt like partners.

FAQs About Couples Therapy in Columbia, MD

  • A: Yes—you absolutely can.
    Some of the deepest healing happens when a partner who’s been hurt finally has a safe space to lean on someone they love. You don’t need to “work on yourself first” to deserve closeness.
    As a Columbia, MD couples therapist, I’ll help you move at a pace that honors both of you and builds emotional safety from the inside out.

  • A: That’s more common than you might think.
    Often one partner feels unsure—especially if therapy has been unhelpful in the past or if they’re not used to talking about emotions.
    This isn’t about forcing vulnerability. It’s about creating a space that feels safe enough for both of you to show up, in your own ways. We’ll start from where you are—not where you “should” be.

  • A: Absolutely.
    Some couples say, “We never fight… but we also don’t really talk about anything meaningful anymore.” That kind of quiet disconnection can be just as painful.
    Couples therapy can help you feel emotionally close again—not just roommates or co-parents, but true partners.

  • A: No. 

     In couples therapy, I don’t see either of you as “the problem.” The relationship is my client—and my job is to help you both feel safe, heard, and understood as we work together.

    I act as a process manager, helping you slow things down and make sense of the patterns that keep pulling you apart. We’ll focus not on blame, but on how to shift the dynamic between you—so you can start reaching for each other in new, more connected ways.

  • A: We’ll begin with a session together to understand what’s bringing you in.
    Next, we’ll typically have 2–4 individual sessions—one with each of you—to explore your experiences without defensiveness or pressure.
    After that, we return to joint sessions where the real relational healing happens. Often, what’s happening at home will show up in the room—and we’ll slow it down together so it finally makes sense.

  • A: I’m considered an out-of-network provider, so I don’t bill insurance directly.
    But I do work with Thrizer, which makes the reimbursement process really simple—no forms or back-and-forth. If you have out-of-network benefits, you can likely get a good portion of your sessions reimbursed. I'm happy to help you figure out what that could look like.

Let’s Connect

Whether you're ready to begin therapy or simply want to learn more, I’d love to hear from you.

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Even the distance between you makes sense. We can work with that.