Offering both in-person and virtual sessions

Couples Therapy in Columbia, MD

For long-term couples ready to close the gap that parenting, work, and stress have created.

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You’ve lost each other even though you’re still together.

After years of raising kids and building careers, you’ve created a full life side by side — calendars packed, responsibilities never-ending — but somewhere along the way, something went quiet between you.

Maybe the only things you talk about anymore are the practical details. Pickup times. Bills. Homework. You’re managing a household together but not really connecting as partners.

Maybe one of you is buried in work, trying to provide and keep the family moving forward, while the other is carrying the emotional and mental load at home. You’re both doing your best, but neither of you feels truly understood.

Maybe everything shifted in one moment. A betrayal. A blowout fight. Something you can’t un-hear or un-see. Something happened, and now the ground between you doesn’t feel steady anymore.

Or maybe this disconnection has been building for years — quietly, steadily — as parenting demands, career pressure, and the daily grind left little space for each other.

Feeling more like roommates than partners?

You’re not yelling all the time. But you’re not reaching for each other either. You might feel like you’re walking on eggshells—or like you’ve become invisible.

You’re still in the same house… but it’s starting to feel like you live separate lives.

And underneath it all, there’s grief. Because you remember what it used to feel like, or at least, what you hoped it could be. You want that spark again, not just for the relationship, but for yourself.

You still care about each other—but something’s off. Maybe it’s the silence, the stress, or how every little thing turns into a fight. Or maybe it’s the distance: lying next to each other at night, feeling alone.

Between the demands of parenting, the pressure of careers, and the daily grind, there’s little energy left for each other. Couples therapy can help you reconnect—with empathy, not blame. We’ll slow down, understand what’s really happening beneath the surface, and find your way back to each other.

You and your partner are carrying so much. It’s no wonder the relationship has taken a backseat. But that doesn’t mean it’s beyond repair.

The pressure of parenting, careers, and daily life makes it hard to stay connected. I help long-term couples work through the disconnection and rebuild what’s been missing.

  • Overwhelmed by the stress and mental load of parenting and craving a moment to just be together again—not just co-manage the chaos.

  • Where connection has quietly faded and all that’s left is functional routines and polite distance.

  • Especially when one partner is highly driven or entrepreneurial and the other feels unseen, unsupported, or alone.

  • When the affair is over but the pain and doubt still linger—and you both want to feel safe enough to open up again and find your way back to something real.

  • Unsure how things got this hard, but knowing they can’t stay this way.

  • One of you feels like sex is the only way your partner connects. The other feels pressure or pulls away. You're both left feeling alone, and unsure how to fix it.

No matter what’s brought you here, we’ll work at a pace that honors your experience, your history, and your hopes.

I’ll help you both tune in, beneath the blame, the silence, or the overwhelm, and finally feel what it’s like to be understood again.

What life could look like as a result of therapy

Imagine sitting across from each other, not to argue or go through the motions, but to really connect. Your partner looks up from their phone when you speak. You see something in their eyes you haven’t seen in a while. Attention. Care. Even warmth.

You bring something up that’s been hard to say, and they don’t shut down or get defensive. They nod. They stay with you. You can feel the difference. Later, you find yourselves laughing in the kitchen while cleaning up dinner. It’s small, but it feels real. Like something is softening.

Even when something hard comes up, you don’t spiral. You take a breath, and so do they. You work through it. Not perfectly, but together. This is what starts to shift when the patterns change. When you both feel steadier inside. When the relationship becomes a place where you feel met, not just managed.

How we’ll get there:

I use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to help couples move from disconnection to secure emotional bonds. That means we’ll map out the cycle you get stuck in, then shift the emotional patterns that keep you distant or reactive.

As a therapist offering relationship counseling, I help you explore what happens in those stuck places: the anger, the silence, the shutdown — always with compassion and clarity. Instead of assigning blame, we’ll get curious about what those reactions are trying to protect.

This is deep work, but it’s how real change happens. You don’t need to settle for just surviving together. With the right support, you can feel close again.

You won’t be blamed or made the bad guy. I don’t take sides. In couples therapy, the relationship itself is the focus. My role is to help both of you feel heard, understood, and steady enough to slow down and see what’s really happening underneath the surface. Not to assign blame, but to help you move through the stuck places in a way that brings softness, clarity, and real connection.

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What you’ll take away from Couples Therapy

Couples therapy isn’t just about learning how to “communicate better.” It’s about building a relationship where both of you feel seen, valued, and safe again.

Together, we’ll work on helping you:

  • Recognize the emotional cycles and share needs without criticism, shutdown, or defensiveness

  • Rebuild connection so that both of you feel less alone in the hard moments

  • Rebuild after the hard moments with clarity, not blame. So you can stop feeling like you have to defend your pain and start feeling truly understood

  • Navigate parenting stress and differences without feeling dismissed
    So your partner sees that you’re not just reacting. You’re doing your best and your perspective makes sense

  • Create new ways of connecting that feel real, not forced or surface-level

  • Turn toward each other again in everyday life, not only during conflict or crisis.

This isn’t about “fixing” you or your partner. It’s about changing the pattern between you, so the relationship starts to feel like a place where you both can finally exhale.

There is a version of your relationship where you feel understood, supported, and close— even with the demands of parenting and work.

Whether it's something you've lost or something you've always hoped for, I’d be honored to help you get there.

FAQs

  • Yes—you absolutely can.

    Some of the deepest healing happens when a partner who’s been hurt finally has a safe space to lean on someone they love. You don’t need to “work on yourself first” to deserve closeness.
    As a Columbia, MD couples therapist, I’ll help you move at a pace that honors both of you and creates emotional safety, and makes it possible to face past hurts together — even in the middle of life’s demands.

  • Often one partner feels unsure — especially if therapy has been unhelpful in the past, if life already feels overloaded with work or parenting, or if they’re not used to talking about emotions. This isn’t about forcing vulnerability. It’s about creating a space that feels safe enough for both of you to show up in your own ways. We’ll start from where you are — not where you “should” be.

  • Absolutely. Parenting can bring so much joy — and also an incredible amount of stress. Many couples find that disagreements about discipline, responsibilities, or the mental load are really about deeper needs for support, respect, and understanding. In therapy, we’ll look beyond the parenting decisions themselves to understand what’s happening underneath, so you can work together as a team both for your relationship and your family.

  • Yes. Career demands can leave you feeling like there’s nothing left to give at the end of the day — which often creates more distance at home. We’ll slow down and make sense of how work stress shows up between you, and find ways to reconnect even when life is full. The goal isn’t to add another “to-do” but to create a stronger foundation so you both feel supported in the middle of busy, demanding lives.

  • No. 

     In couples therapy, I don’t see either of you as “the problem.” The relationship is my client—and my job is to help you both feel safe, heard, and understood as we work together.

    I act as a process manager, helping you slow things down and make sense of the patterns that keep pulling you apart. We’ll focus not on blame, but on how to shift the dynamic between you—so you can start reaching for each other in new, more connected ways.

  • We’ll begin with a session together to understand what’s bringing you in. Next, we’ll typically have 2–4 individual sessions—one with each of you—to explore your experiences without defensiveness or pressure. After that, we return to joint sessions where the real relational healing happens. Often, what’s happening at home will show up in the room. We’ll slow it down together so it finally makes sense.

  • I’m considered an out-of-network provider, so I don’t bill insurance directly.

    But I do work with Thrizer, which makes the reimbursement process really simple—no forms or back-and-forth. If you have out-of-network benefits, you can likely get a good portion of your sessions reimbursed. I'm happy to help you figure out what that could look like.